Showing posts with label moms. Show all posts
Showing posts with label moms. Show all posts
Just a little somehting to remind each of us we are important enough to take care of ourselves first and foremost.

MAYA ANGELOU'S BEST POEM EVER
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE....
a feeling of control over her destiny
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit a job, break up with a lover and confront a friend without ruining the friendship...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW ...
whom she can trust, whom she can't and why she shouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month... and a year...
Disclaimer: For those of you new to my site, my Mom passed away June 23rd, 2008. She left behind a husband at 62, her Mom at 92, 4 children, 4 Grandchildren and many friends. I am slowly dealing with the situation but have found myself in the role of sole caregiver for and power of attorney for both my Father and Grandmother. It's a mess and so am I.

Take a moment to think about everything you do for your family. Typically we undervalue our worth any time we are asked by saying "I'm just a Mom" so I ask you to think about all those roles you have in any given day ~ again.
For many the list looks something like this: Wife, Mother, Caregiver, Chef, Financial Officer, Maid, Household Manager, decorator, taxi, educational advisor etc.

Now think about how much it would cost to hire someone to do those jobs if you were gone? Would you or your husband be able to handle each of those roles alone in addition to working 40+ hours a week if the other should pass away before retirement?

Now take a moment to think about life insurance.
Do you have a policy?
Is it a individual policy or a joint policy?
If it's an individual policy, how much are you worth according to the policy?
Does your individual policy come close to how much it would cost to hire someone to do all the jobs you listed earlier?
If it's a joint policy do you realize both parties would have to pass before it can be collected on? How would that help you in you time of need if you were the survivor?

As you can already guess, Mom was grossly under-insured and the situation has left my Father upside down with funeral costs one year before retirement.

I know this is a difficult conversation to have with your husband (wife) but it's a conversation you can not afford not to have ... today.
Shamelessly lifted from a email sent to me and shared with you
becasue I understand and support you.
Before I was a Mom -
I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put her down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache,the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much,
before I was a Mom.